A time to die

I grew up going for a long time without people close to me passing, so death of loved ones was always this far fetched thing for me, but in the last 2 years I’ve lost two uncles, and an uncle’s wife, people who were all part of my growing up in some shape or form. Most people my age have lost ...

“The Talk”

As a teenager, depending on how involved your parents were, you probably got some version of “the talk” from your parents. You know, the sex talk. Hopefully it wasn’t prompted by you getting caught in a compromising position, but at a minimum it was some variant of caution about the opposite ...

Na Money, Na Money.

One of the things that’s struck me about being in Nigeria is how transactional male-female relationships can be. In Abuja where I’ve spent the most time, bars, clubs, the regular streets and even dating apps are filled with women who either want to give you a ‘massage’ or are okay with going ...

Doing it afraid.

In the middle of all the hullabaloo about Abuja being unsafe, I camped at 2500 ft above sea level on Maitama hills this past weekend along with some old and new friends. Some were locals, people who lived or worked at the bottom of the hill, We took a few ‘precautions’, like taking an ...

Upsidownistan

How do you solve a problem like Nigeriaaa? I think the first step would be to define it. So, how do you start to define Nigeria? When you understand it as a land where nothing happens the way it should you will have some clarity, and then patience. Here are some examples, excuse my ...